Happy Birthday Dear

Today is my husband's birthday, Happy Birthday Dear. I love you. We have been happily married for over 13 years. He is probably one of the hardest working men I know. He spent 22 plus years in the military. Those we rough years, we spent so many of them apart. His boots have been all over this blue and green globe of ours. He always gives 110 percent to whatever job he has in his life. I could never in a million years do even a quarter of what he does in one day. Now he works for a plant that makes a product we use every day in our lives.

Starting over, and I don't say that lightly, was so very hard on him. He felt like life was beginning all over again...it was so extremely stressful. I would never want to do that time over again, when we first got out of the military. While you are still in the military, its like you live inside this bubble. It's nothing anywhere near what life is like on the other side. Maybe its just me because we spent so much time in. All I know is the adjustment was ROUGH. With most people our age, they have been at their jobs for at least ten to fifteen years or more and most have bought a house by now and its close to half paid for, all are way ahead of us. At times it's a bit disconcerting and depressing. Realistically, we are about where most 20 somethings start and we are 20 plus ahead in age. We tried for years to get stationed in his home state so we could buy a home and of course the military never sends you where you want to go (at least when we were in they didn't).

All those years we spent away from both of our families. I know he feels at times he is treated different by his parents for that absence. I have to agree because sometimes it shows in subtle ways in things that they do. Though maybe they don't mean to it happens. Maybe all those years gone they feel they don't know their son, well now would be the perfect time to get reaquainted. It almost as if he is getting punished now for making the choice to serve his country. And yes at the time they were very proud of him. My friends all believe that it could possibly be a racial thing; I am a different race. None of the other brothers chose to marry outside their race.

Also, they all think that just because he retired from the military (as an enlisted) we have TONS of money. Why because we like to have nice things and save for them? This part I will never ever understand, they gave the older brother a house many years ago, he still lives in it with his family, he trashed the place and has never taken care of it nor has he ever paid one cent to live there. So, long story short their grandmother's house is being given to him as well. My husband is very upset. We pay over $1,200. a month for rent where we live. He doesn't understand nor do I why it wasn't passed down to him. His brother was already given one home, trashed it, so why is he getting another? We aren't the only ones who feel this way.

Moving on....when I first started this blog I said I wasnt sure what it would be about...looks like its turning into a bitch session for me. Hopefully, it will change its tone soon. I hate being a negative person. Seems like that has a grasp on me lately, negativity, I don't even think I will put a Christmas tree up this year. I've never went without a Christmas tree. Maybe part of it has to do with living in a warm climate whereas I grew up in New York with snow this time of year. It just doesn't feel like Christmas when it's 70 degrees outside.

Anyhow....Happy Birthday My Love!!! I appreciate you and all that you do and have done. I am lucky to have you in my life. You are one of the most honest, caring, true, and passionate people I know. You truly are one of a kind to me. I thank God for you everyday. I have never known anyone in my life who works as hard as you do. I cherish you, our marriage, and our life together. Today I celebrate you. I love you more!

P.S. If you see a soldier this Christmas, thank him or her for all they do. It's the simplest of things to do but it means so much to them. Actually, you should do it no matter what time of year it is... but if you are the praying type please say a prayer for all those men and women who serve and especially those who are away from their loved ones right now.

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Happy Birthday Dear

Today is my husband's birthday, Happy Birthday Dear. I love you. We have been happily married for over 13 years. He is probably one of the hardest working men I know. He spent 22 plus years in the military. Those we rough years, we spent so many of them apart. His boots have been all over this blue and green globe of ours. He always gives 110 percent to whatever job he has in his life. I could never in a million years do even a quarter of what he does in one day. Now he works for a plant that makes a product we use every day in our lives.

Starting over, and I don't say that lightly, was so very hard on him. He felt like life was beginning all over again...it was so extremely stressful. I would never want to do that time over again, when we first got out of the military. While you are still in the military, its like you live inside this bubble. It's nothing anywhere near what life is like on the other side. Maybe its just me because we spent so much time in. All I know is the adjustment was ROUGH. With most people our age, they have been at their jobs for at least ten to fifteen years or more and most have bought a house by now and its close to half paid for, all are way ahead of us. At times it's a bit disconcerting and depressing. Realistically, we are about where most 20 somethings start and we are 20 plus ahead in age. We tried for years to get stationed in his home state so we could buy a home and of course the military never sends you where you want to go (at least when we were in they didn't).

All those years we spent away from both of our families. I know he feels at times he is treated different by his parents for that absence. I have to agree because sometimes it shows in subtle ways in things that they do. Though maybe they don't mean to it happens. Maybe all those years gone they feel they don't know their son, well now would be the perfect time to get reaquainted. It almost as if he is getting punished now for making the choice to serve his country. And yes at the time they were very proud of him. My friends all believe that it could possibly be a racial thing; I am a different race. None of the other brothers chose to marry outside their race.

Also, they all think that just because he retired from the military (as an enlisted) we have TONS of money. Why because we like to have nice things and save for them? This part I will never ever understand, they gave the older brother a house many years ago, he still lives in it with his family, he trashed the place and has never taken care of it nor has he ever paid one cent to live there. So, long story short their grandmother's house is being given to him as well. My husband is very upset. We pay over $1,200. a month for rent where we live. He doesn't understand nor do I why it wasn't passed down to him. His brother was already given one home, trashed it, so why is he getting another? We aren't the only ones who feel this way.

Moving on....when I first started this blog I said I wasnt sure what it would be about...looks like its turning into a bitch session for me. Hopefully, it will change its tone soon. I hate being a negative person. Seems like that has a grasp on me lately, negativity, I don't even think I will put a Christmas tree up this year. I've never went without a Christmas tree. Maybe part of it has to do with living in a warm climate whereas I grew up in New York with snow this time of year. It just doesn't feel like Christmas when it's 70 degrees outside.

Anyhow....Happy Birthday My Love!!! I appreciate you and all that you do and have done. I am lucky to have you in my life. You are one of the most honest, caring, true, and passionate people I know. You truly are one of a kind to me. I thank God for you everyday. I have never known anyone in my life who works as hard as you do. I cherish you, our marriage, and our life together. Today I celebrate you. I love you more!

P.S. If you see a soldier this Christmas, thank him or her for all they do. It's the simplest of things to do but it means so much to them. Actually, you should do it no matter what time of year it is... but if you are the praying type please say a prayer for all those men and women who serve and especially those who are away from their loved ones right now.

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Do Something Nice For Someone

So my a good friend of mine called... I must admit at first my reaction was why are you moving and not prepared? Like most people if you are moving into a new home you move with a little bit of money in your pocket because you know there are going to be some added expenses. In this case, they had tapped out their entire resources. As a matter of fact, she is living with her aunt and her aunt had to rely on her to even pay the rent for the new place. So to get more into the story... they moved in not thinking they would have to pay for utilities or water. Of course, in most cases they are going to make you put down a deposit and check your credit for utilities and water. You can't do anything today without that happening.

The very next day low and behold the power and water get shut off. They borrowed money from a relative to get the power turned back on. There are two small children in the home; it was very necessary to have heat first since it is cold right now. She called me yesterday telling me they had nobody really left to ask for the other $200 for water. I waited till my husband was on his way home from work and we talked about it and we decided to send them the money so they could have water.

The reason I am telling this story is because yeah I could have been "learn your lesson" you don't move unprepared like that! There are three adults and you all should have known better. By the way, they got evicted from their previous residence because their neighbor and they did not get along very well. The landlord decided to evict both of them regardless of whose fault it was. Albeit, he did give them a little bit more time; regardless they still had to get out! My reason.... do something nice for someone! Not just because it's Christmas time. But because we are all human beings. There is so much selfishness in our world today. We tend to run about in our own little "bubbles" not thinking about the next person.  I could have done a million things with that $200 but they really needed it more than I did. It doesn't have to be a $200 good deed that you do, buy someone a cup of coffee that is in line behind you, or instead of running out of the store door, hold the door for the person behind you (that one is a freebie). Tell someone that look beautiful or that you like think they have nice eyes... anything to make someone feel good and to let them know that you are taking time out of your busy day to notice them and the big thing is that you CARE!

I have this other friend who I hope really reads this... but more than likely won't! She is very self-centered in many ways. I don't mean to be critical of her but she is constantly asking for attention from others. She does things just to seek out attention and then wonders why she doesn't have someone special in her life. She can never share the "stage" with anyone. She always has to be "front and center". No matter how much you help her with things, she doesn't let other people know just how much you have done. It's always hers! Her way! She asks for your opinion and what she should do, then disregards what you say completely. So why ask? She superficially acts like she is a good "deeder" but I believe on the inside she is resentful of others. She is always trying to one up the next person or at least to me it appears that way. Because her ideas are always better. I would love to be able to tell her just how I feel but I think she would take it all wrong. And even this person  I have done nice things for... the sad thing is though I never expect anything in return... but at least she could do is reciprocate a little bit!

I suppose I gave a great example of doing something nice and then another of someone that is on the complete opposite end of that. I hope that if you are reading my blog that it inspires you to do something nice for someone. It really wouldn't take much and you wouldn't realize how much it would mean to them.

New Beginnings, Christmas and Back Stabbing.. DRAMA... Does it all fit together? I don't think so...

New Beginnings.... So this is my first post to this blog... I have another one that I maintain. I figured it would be easy to have one with google since I do alot of stuff with google already... e-mail and all  etc...
Yeah I suppose I am just babbeling...
So... it is a beautiful day today... what gets me.. is how can I be in a Christmas spirit when the weather outside is 80 degrees. I am originally from New York so yes I am used to snow during the season. Living now in South Texas it makes it so hard to get into the spirit of the holiday when the weather doesn't make it so easy.
Why does life have to have so much DRAMA? Really? Why does there have to be so much back stabbing and craziness behind people's backs... I don't get it. We are all grown ups.... and to do this is so degrading and thoughtless. If you want something just come right out and ask the person you want it from instead of making plans behind the person's back and then asking me to ask... and it all gets so tangled.. it becomes a GREAT MESS. Why would you want to come and see someone who won't be available to see you anyway... sounds to me like there are other reasons for the visit in the first place. Right? I mean he works from 4:30 a.m. till almost 9:00 p.m. comes home eats, showers, and goes to sleep. He barely says a few words and then he is off to bed... Why would you want to come with his schedule like that? Why? I wouldn't! Sounds to me like there are other motives behind the visit. It certainly isn't coming to see a father you barely know. And by the way, won't get to know this visit either because he won't be available. Sounds like a Christmas thing to me. But what do I know anyway... I mean eventually he WILL get some vacation and wouldn't it make MUCH more sense to visit then.... because these trips every single year like she is requesting we certainly can not afford. Yes... I am venting... It all doesn't make sense to me... they just met one another just over a year ago... reunited that is the last time they saw one another was when she was two... and then the phone calls started asking for money constantly... which didn't go over to well!
So irritating to me! Sometimes I wonder why he puts up with so much! It's like this time he is being pressured by his mother and daughter and he doesn't even want it to happen but to make things not so dramatic and cause friction he will go along with them... that's no way to be.. He needs to express his feelings.
As I said what do I know right?
Love lasts forever... right?