Starting over, and I don't say that lightly, was so very hard on him. He felt like life was beginning all over again...it was so extremely stressful. I would never want to do that time over again, when we first got out of the military. While you are still in the military, its like you live inside this bubble. It's nothing anywhere near what life is like on the other side. Maybe its just me because we spent so much time in. All I know is the adjustment was ROUGH. With most people our age, they have been at their jobs for at least ten to fifteen years or more and most have bought a house by now and its close to half paid for, all are way ahead of us. At times it's a bit disconcerting and depressing. Realistically, we are about where most 20 somethings start and we are 20 plus ahead in age. We tried for years to get stationed in his home state so we could buy a home and of course the military never sends you where you want to go (at least when we were in they didn't).
All those years we spent away from both of our families. I know he feels at times he is treated different by his parents for that absence. I have to agree because sometimes it shows in subtle ways in things that they do. Though maybe they don't mean to it happens. Maybe all those years gone they feel they don't know their son, well now would be the perfect time to get reaquainted. It almost as if he is getting punished now for making the choice to serve his country. And yes at the time they were very proud of him. My friends all believe that it could possibly be a racial thing; I am a different race. None of the other brothers chose to marry outside their race.
Also, they all think that just because he retired from the military (as an enlisted) we have TONS of money. Why because we like to have nice things and save for them? This part I will never ever understand, they gave the older brother a house many years ago, he still lives in it with his family, he trashed the place and has never taken care of it nor has he ever paid one cent to live there. So, long story short their grandmother's house is being given to him as well. My husband is very upset. We pay over $1,200. a month for rent where we live. He doesn't understand nor do I why it wasn't passed down to him. His brother was already given one home, trashed it, so why is he getting another? We aren't the only ones who feel this way.
Moving on....when I first started this blog I said I wasnt sure what it would be about...looks like its turning into a bitch session for me. Hopefully, it will change its tone soon. I hate being a negative person. Seems like that has a grasp on me lately, negativity, I don't even think I will put a Christmas tree up this year. I've never went without a Christmas tree. Maybe part of it has to do with living in a warm climate whereas I grew up in New York with snow this time of year. It just doesn't feel like Christmas when it's 70 degrees outside.
Anyhow....Happy Birthday My Love!!! I appreciate you and all that you do and have done. I am lucky to have you in my life. You are one of the most honest, caring, true, and passionate people I know. You truly are one of a kind to me. I thank God for you everyday. I have never known anyone in my life who works as hard as you do. I cherish you, our marriage, and our life together. Today I celebrate you. I love you more!
P.S. If you see a soldier this Christmas, thank him or her for all they do. It's the simplest of things to do but it means so much to them. Actually, you should do it no matter what time of year it is... but if you are the praying type please say a prayer for all those men and women who serve and especially those who are away from their loved ones right now.
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